baby Domme pointing to your place.
She knows she doesn’t need to.
She just likes to. <3
baby Domme pointing to your place.
She knows she doesn’t need to.
She just likes to. <3
Starting Dec 17, adult content will not be allowed on Tumblr. They’re not deleting nsfw/porn/bdsm/fetish blogs that were created before December 17th (so i am told). On that very doomsday all explicit posts in your archive will be automatically set to private. All new posts thereafter will have to follow the new Apple Inc. terms of service. I find this all a bit hypocritical coming from Apple Inc., when the CEO Tim Cook (a self identifying LGBTQ born in 1960) grew up within a hostile society that saw homosexuality as a mental illness & sodomy as a criminal offense. This is just another example for why we can’t have nice things #fuckapple
I woke up with a chaotic brain, like it was full of static. My mind was spinning in too many directions at once. Seeing how much I had to do should have made me jump right in, but it was making me want to avoid it instead. I had breakfast and screwed around a little before finally getting going a little bit. I had maybe a paragraph of an email completed after several minutes but it was progress. Then @cynicaldom called me from the bedroom. I sighed.
I like our morning routine, I just was frustrated to be interrupted. I walked into the bedroom and within a few moments had forgotten about being disrupted. I massaged his legs, we cuddled and talked a little bit. I was being playful and giggling. I was horny. He invited my hand into his pants and I got a little excited before he pulled his shorts back up. He as just teasing me. This frustrated me a bit but I tried to hide it. We talked and cuddled more. More silliness. He got up to get dressed and I started to leave the bedroom but he grabbed me and pulled me back toward the side of the bed. I whimpered a little to wordlessly express that I wasn’t particularly in the mood for a spanking. He turned me over his knee anyway. Using just his hand, he laid into me hard but slow, which is rare for us. When he uses his hand this way it’s always a powerful reminder of how much of an impact just his can make. The spanking is harder than I expected for ‘just because’ spanking. It doesn’t take long before I notice my breathing changing, I’m almost in tears. Our play never brings me to tears unless we’re doing it for sadistic reasons, and I can tell he isn’t in that kind of a mood. I know he isn’t just playing but I’m also not in trouble. I decide that maybe he thought I needed more intensity as more of a role-reminder. I accept this made-up answer in my mind so I don’t bother to actually ask.
He lets me up and he goes about getting dressed. My mind and emotions are still silly and messy. I hide behind a small table and pop out at him when he comes out of the bedroom. He laughs genuinely, but grabs ahold of me and brings me back to the bedroom. “Something tells me you need more.” he says.
I pout. I don’t want more and I don’t know why he thinks I need more. I didn’t enjoy the spanking I already got. I know he knows I was just playing, It’s very clear to me that I am not in trouble, but I don’t understand why he thinks I need it and it irritates me. He stands me between his knees and leans forward to grab a paddle this time.
“Nooo…” I whine and take a step away from him. Not trying to revoke consent, just expressing my displeasure even though I’m certain he knows I’m not finding this fun. Still seated on the bed, his eyes are at the same height as mine. He looks me straight in the eye “Stop.” he says with his voice quieter than a usual speaking voice, a hint deeper, with the tone hardened. This is his Dom Voice™. One word and the change in tone tell me everything I need to know. While he was playing along before, he is not playing anymore. He’s tired of my semi-playful and semi-bratty sass. The attitude, the wanting my own way, the desire to struggle all melt out of me in response to that tone. When I read about domestic discipline before we lived it, I always imagined that “the tone™ ” or “the voice™ ” being an increase in volume. Maybe not truly yelling, but louder than usual. CD has never been one to raise his voice frequently in general, but even less with me. He doesn’t raise his voice at me when he’s setting a boundary for me. He doesn’t need to. I can hear the unhappiness and seriousness in his tone when he just says “stop.” and that is enough to correct my course.
He pulls me back into place between his legs and removes my bottoms and pulls me over his lap. He brings me to tears with the paddle. I twist my arm over my back, offering it to him so he can hold it for me without struggle. Once I break into solid tears he holds a steady pace for a while and I keep crying. He stops and rubs my butt as I lay over his lap and I keep crying for a bit.
I think I could count on one hand how many times I’ve cried from a spanking that wasn’t for punishment. We play with a little sadomashochism, but we just aren’t very intense. I don’t typically need help to cry, and I am not one to seek pain when I’ve had a bad day. He doesn’t get pleasure out of making me cry. So this was a little unique for us. Yet in the moment, I had stopped questioning why we were doing this. When we were done cuddling I went back to working and jumped in, no struggle in focusing, being more productive now. Part way through responding to a stressful work email I had been putting off, “I feel so calm…” I say aloud more to myself than anything but he hears. “Well, yeah. That’s why I did it.” he says. It’s only then that I fully get it. This is what he meant by I need it. I didn’t need a role reminder. I needed calming, I needed to be brought back down, to untangle the static in my brain, to focus.
Some good news, I’ve been talking to two developers now and got them working together, we just had a meeting with the guys behind an existing large (millions of users) site similar to Tumblr, with a vibrant and open-minded community, and more importantly, it has open-minded owners who believe in free speech. They think we can get something done here to rescue the whole community.
I’m not allowed to reveal the site name yet. I can tell you it’s mainstream, open to everyone, open-minded and welcoming. (It’s not WordPress or any site owned by Facebook or Twitter. It’s not Pillowfort, that’s in closed beta. It’s not Ello, that’s mainly for artists. It’s not kinkspace or fetlife, those are too specialist. It’s not jux, that seems to be closed. It’s not Soup, that seems still in development and too small.)
One of the reasons for delaying the announcement for next few days is they don’t want a “land grab” where people take the names of current popular Tumblr users over there (cyber squatting). So they are looking at ways for existing Tumblr users to keep the same names on the new site.
More info over the days to come.
The plan is, broadly:
1. By December 9th, announcement of the new site and how to secure your username there
2. By December 10th, an online tool for bloggers to copy their existing content to the new site automatically, with the same tags and captions.
3. Bloggers will need to copy their content across between December 10th and December 17th if they want to use the automatic tool.
4. My understanding is that after December 17th there will be no public access to any “flagged” posts on Tumblr, but the original poster will still be able to see the flagged post (for a short time at least). Therefore, the original poster may still be able to manually download a post to their own PC or phone, after December 17th, and manually upload it to the other site. But if you have lots of posts that will take a long time, it will be better to use the automatic tool before December 17th.
Please understand that these dates are approximate and may change for technical or other reasons.
There may be a few rough edges or not so perfect looking site design on the transfer tool. Everyone is doing their best. The main goal here is to help as many people as possible preserve access to their content, in the short space of time Tumblr has allowed us, and preserve as much as possible of the Tumblr community spirit somewhere new.
The new site will cater for photo, GIF, text and html posts. It will not offer video and audio posts, due to cost reasons - maybe in future, but for now you will need to preserve video and audio content yourself in some other place.
If your Tumblr blog has a mixture of original content and reblogs, or all reblogs, all of that can be copied over to the new site. Reblogs will become “your” original content if nobody else posted them yet, otherwise they will be shown as reblogs. The devs are looking at ways to preserve attribution of reblogs back to the original Tumblr poster, if that person also moves to the new site.
Important: your Likes cannot be copied from Tumblr to the new site. You will have to go find the same posts again on the new site, and like them afresh.
(Similarly, existing reblog comments, asks, messages and other user interaction on Tumblr cannot be copied to the new site - that’s just too much to do, in the short time available.)
If you want to preserve any of your existing Liked posts on Tumblr, you will need to either: (1) download the post to your own PC, or: (2A) reblog it now to your own Tumblr blog, and then (2B) use the automatic tool, before December 17th, to move your whole Tumblr blog across to the new site.
If you have Liked a lot of posts here on Tumblr, the gridllr.com webapp should be able to help you do steps 1 and 2A quickly, I mean download or reblog.
(Someone complained to me today about the appearance of Gridllr on a phone. It’s best to use Gridllr on a PC, Mac or Tablet with a large screen.)
If you have liked a post here on Tumblr and the original poster decides to delete it, or even to delete their entire blog, some time before December 17th, then that post will be permanently lost. So if you want to be sure to preserve any of your Liked posts, you should best download or reblog as soon as possible. If it’s reblogged to your own blog it is safe from deletion, at least for next few days.
Obviously, you will lose access, after December 17th, to all past posts you have liked, if Tumblr has flagged them as NSFW. Again, the steps (1), or (2A) and (2B) covered above will be the only way to hold on to these posts.
Oh I so hope this works. It would be great to get this out so we can try to get as many people as possible all back in one place and not split up all over different platforms.
Please reblog
Here’s hoping
everyone who see’s this from Me PLEASE reblog this!
~Uncle R.
